I
recently experienced a thing known as college orientation, and my friends the
same, so we've been talking about it a lot.
One
thing we all know about orientation is that it can be awkward. Depending on
whether or not you know anyone at your college, you may end up wandering into
an unfamiliar situation Clint Eastwood style: sweaty and squinting (presumably
because you’re nervous and looking so hard for a friendly face that your eyes
are tearing up. Or because it’s summer. I don’t know; maybe pretending to be
Clint Eastwood could help you foster confidence to befriend your fellow
freshmen. Or befriend a chair.)
ANYWAYS,
walking into a place where you know no one and are expected to be social and
such can be a difficult and anxiety provoking experience. As an introvert, I
get it. Thankfully, I’ve been provided plenty of advice over the years about
how to handle these kinds of situations. This makes me an expert pseudo-extrovert.
I use these techniques when I have to saddle up and be a cool kid:
1. This
is the most important piece of information that I’ve ever been given to boost
my ability to handle unfamiliar experiences. Remember: in places where everyone
is new, everyone is nervous to some degree. Each person will be paying more
attention to their own actions than to when you awkwardly knock over your water
bottle or trip on the carpet or laugh at the wrong time.
2. If
they’re not nice, they’re not worth impressing. ‘Nuff said.
3. What’s
the worst thing that will happen if you do
do something weird? They’ll look at you funny and walk away? Big deal. There will
always be someone to appreciate your quirks.
4. Stand
next to someone who appears to be very social and confident. If they know what
they’re doing, they’ll likely strike up a conversation with you and carry the
bulk of it. That way, you can make a new acquaintance and get warmed up for
when you have to do the social work yourself.
5. Wear
your favorite piece of clothing or jewelry. I don’t know why it helps. It just
does.
6. Start
a conversation with a compliment. Continue on by asking where they got whatever
you’re complimenting. Maybe next you’ll talk about your favorite places to shop.
Best towns to shop. Best shopping experiences. The natural flow of the
conversation will do the rest.
7. Smile.
Even if it feels weird. It’s better than looking cloudy or scared. But don’t
smile all the time. That would be bizarre. Just smile when you meet someone,
make awkward eye contact, sit at the same table as someone, etc.
8. Remember:
I think you’re pretty cool. It has to mean something if a cartoon bean thinks
you’re cool.
9. Carry
a drink. If you need a minute to think during a conversation lag, take a long
sip and gather your thoughts.
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10. This
moment is only a very small moment in your whole existence. Don’t lay so much
importance on it and you won’t be so nervous. If you pressure the situation,
the situation will pressure you.
I
hope someone finds this helpful.
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